moiix asked: i havent been diagnosed with cfs but after getting a viral infection and being sick for the past 2 months with exhaustion, pain and much much more i know its post viral fatigue/ chronic fatigue. what do you do to cope? i honestly feel like im never going to get better and this is kind of the last straw for me. ive never been this depressed and my lifes supposed to be starting but i had to quit my first year of uni. the only thing keeping me going is my boyfriend. does it ever get better?
Well I’m just one person with an opinion based on my own experiences, but yes, it gets SO MUCH BETTER. In my opinion, the first year or two is the worst. (Well the first year I was in denial, so really the second year for me. haha) Once you get a good team of doctors and learn all about your chronic illness, there may be a lot you can do to help with symptoms. And even if not, in my case I adjusted to my “new normal” and don’t really feel like I’m missing out on much anymore. I have more realistic expectations for myself and life so I don’t get disappointed as often. Well I say more realistic, but I’m still pretty committed to grad school and traveling and stuff. I just am ok with doing it with lots of accommodations and taking it slow and stuff. And I went from resenting all my forced down time to filling it with meaningful activities that I can do even when tired and in lots of pain. It’s amazing how much one can accomplish while laying in bed! haha Anyway…despite my many limitations and feeling like crap a lot of the time, I’m still pretty happy overall. It took a while to get there though. Figuring it all out doesn’t happen overnight.
Oh, and I got sick in my second year in college, so I totally get that whole level of frustration. College was supposed to be the best time of my life and I found myself either not able to attend or struggling through. Now that I’m in grad school I feel like I’m getting a second chance and that helps as far as accepting everything. One important thing I learned from being sick is that life doesn’t have to follow this linear path that is the same as everyone else’s. It’s ok to take time off of school and then take six years to graduate. It’s ok to not have the same life experience as your peers. You’ll figure out what’s right for you. In time you may find that being forced to take an alternate path is kind of freeing. It’s all about you and what you want.
Good luck! And sorry this became so long. I tend to be rather verbose. :0P Feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat.
Oh man, did I ever need to hear this <3